Sorry about the downage from yesterday. But we’re back up now, just in time to make fun of Fay Weldon for this pandering to the right wing press in England. It’s a standard issue feminist-baiting piece—-basically, look at this feminist talking about how feminists are so stupid!—-but as usual, the only people looking stupid are the anti-feminists. In this case, Weldon is so stupid that she doesn’t even realize how directly she contradicts herself in her pandering. For instance, she bashes feminists for our supposed man-hating.
But the trouble is, the battle became too fierce, and the whole culture encouraged women to believe that men are stupid, useless creatures who are the enemy.
Is that so? Well, let’s hear Weldon correct the record:
‘At work, gender should not come into it. Women are right to refuse to make the coffee, but when you get home I’m afraid you have to make the coffee.
‘It’s such a waste of time trying to tell your husband to pick up the socks or clean the loo. It’s much easier just to do it yourself.’
And:
‘They (men) just don’t want to commit to you, and why would they when you are a busy working woman who can look after yourself and probably goes to bed easily with them?’
And:
‘The thing is, you need to find a man who is cleverer than you, or at least not let him know that you are cleverer than him,’ she said.
‘Women want boyfriends to be like their girlfriends, fun to go to the pictures with, but men are not like that. They want sex and they grunt. If you really want a man to be nice to you, never give him a hard time, never talk about emotions and never ask him how he is feeling.’
And:
She once told women not to expect orgasms but to fake them and still praise their lover.
Weldon fancies herself someone who understands how wonderful men are, something we feminists supposedly don’t get. But in her view, men are mean-spirited, lazy, bad lovers, egotistical monsters who need to oppress women to feel good about themselves. In addition, Weldons believe that men simply cannot be convinced that women have personalities worth enjoying. They merely want you to do housework and offer sex, and in exchange, they’ll pretend to like you. But they can’t be expected to pretend to like your female friends, who they get no sexual or domestic service from. But that’s not all! Men are also subhuman, in her mind, incapable of any higher emotions besides competitiveness, insecurity,and misogyny. Outside of that, according to Weldon, men are just balls of food and sex needs, but they don’t have feelings.
But feminists are the man-haters. We hate men so much we think they’re people. What I fail to understand—-when I hear anti-feminists scold the little ladies about our supposed illusions that men could ever actually like, much less love us—-is why on earth, if men are so horrible, women should associate with them? Even for straight women, in Weldon’s world, expecting sexual satisfaction out of men is ridiculous. From this interview, from what I can tell, Weldon thinks men have absolutely nothing to offer women. Not sexual pleasure, not kindness, nothing but more socks to pick up. The only reason it works is anti-feminists think even less of women than they do of men, and thus are capable of believing that women are so incredibly needy and stupid that we’ll cling to men who give us absolutely nothing, so we can lie to ourselves and pretend that it’s possible that anyone could love us. Bleak worldview, indeed.
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*applause* exactly! If all men were as anti-feminists and MRAs describe it would be better for every woman to be a cat lady or a lesbian. My husband is the best “girlfriend” I could ask for, complete with intellectual discussion and shopping. I suppose I must be his beard.