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It really isn’t that confusing

It took me far too long to work up the enthusiasm to watch this video I just posted about Joe Biden’s and the VAWA.  It was 6 minutes, and I thought I knew all I needed to know, and so I didn’t watch it until today.  That was a mistake.  I did learn some things from it (mostly how Biden had worked much harder on this legislation than even I realized), but mostly I was impressed at how much they managed to accomplish in 6 minutes—-the video humanizes the issues, addresses the common objection to law enforcement interfering with domestic abuse (which is that the responsibility belongs to victims to leave), promotes the Obama/Biden ticket, and more interestingly, makes an argument for the good that government can do when politicians take their job to work for the people seriously.  In the face of the power-mad blitzkrieg of bullshit coming from McCain/Palin, I can honestly say this video felt refreshing. 

It was also a stern reminder, which I hoped I didn’t need, of what should be feminist priorities when it comes to engaging in electoral politics.  Luckily, McCain’s gamble with Sarah Palin—-that she would be a shiny distraction from his viciously anti-woman policies for Clinton supporters with hurt feelings—-mostly failed.  (Luckily, Palin was also picked apparently to pander to right wing illusions, and especially right wing men’s fantasies, and she’s succeeded amply at that.)  Still, a few women have been lured by the “Ooooh, shiny” effect.  Unfortunately, one of them is Elaine Lafferty, who wrote an article she apparently thinks is feminist, but is actually stunningly condescending.

Palin is more than a “quick study”; I’d heard rumors around the campaign of her photographic memory and, frankly, I watched it in action. She sees. She processes. She questions, and only then, she acts. What is often called her “confidence” is actually a rarity in national politics: I saw a woman who knows exactly who she is.

I’ll be frank. If a man wrote this, it would indisputably read like the writer is describing a 4-year-old who can spell her name right.  Palin asks questions! She remembers stuff!  We should all fall to the floor writhing in amazement at what this remarkable woman above all other women can do.  Next you’ll be telling me that her vagina hasn’t interfered with her ability to read.  Seriously, she calls her a brainiac.  Because Lafferty suddenly seems to believe that having the skills that you need to graduate high school is enough to catapult a woman to genius status.  If asking questions makes you a brainiac, then ordinary, everyday women must need help tying their shoes.

I can’t even begin to register the disappointment I feel when I see someone who used to be an editor at Ms. Magazine fall for the McCain/Palin claptrap.  It’s deplorable that some people are sexist to Sarah Palin and call her a cunt.  But in the grand scheme of things, Palin is by far the bigger misogynist, and her supporters see it and eat it upWitness:

I won’t get into another tirade about how these images of disembodied fetuses that apparently hang out in balloons and have more brain power than newborns and, apparently, full grown women are inherently misogynist images that erase the autonomy and labor of women. 

I think a lot of feminists actually feel attraction towards the shadow feminism that the right wing has constructed and that Sarah Palin currently represents, a pseudo-feminism that Renee has deemed that of colluders, who are women that sell out other women and kiss up to the patriarchy.  Often, right wing women feel that they don’t “need” feminism, because they are extraordinary and can compete in the world of men without equality.  Right wing men around them are happy to feed this belief,* a long as it suits their purposes, even if they secretly believe that even extraordinary women can’t keep up with an average man.  I absolutely see this quality about Sarah Palin, and in a sense, it’s attractive to feminists.  Because what right wing colluders and feminists often share is a sense that we’re restricted by gender roles.  But our methods of fighting back are completely different.  Colluders play along, deciding that being treated as better than other women (but worse than men) is a great consolation prize for their perceived specialness.  Feminists fight for justice.

Well, most of the time.  And then sometimes they get entranced by right wing antics like Lafferty did here.  It’s a tendency that haunts feminism and should be guarded against.  The fact of the matter is that power hungry right wing women only share ambition with feminists, and nothing more. 

If feminism means anything, it certainly should mean equality for women, not ass-sucking the tokens who are brought up precisely to put the rest of us down.  This should be basic, and apparently it’s not, but Obama/Biden are the actual feminist ticket, because their policies align with feminist goals more than the McCain/Palin ticket.  And it’s not just about abortion rights.  It’s reproductive justice—-they support policies that help women avoid getting pregnant when they don’t want to be and have healthy pregnancies when they want that.  It’s support for an international view of women’s rights.  The Democrats don’t have the same hostility towards the U.N. that Republicans have, and will work with them in their various programs to alleviate worldwide poverty through empowering women.  It’s about women’s economic status, and not just because Obama/Biden are supporters of aggressive legislation to ensure equal pay for equal work.  In the more catholic view, as rated by a group of economists, McCain fails women and Obama generally supports them.

The fact of the matter is that while Obama and Biden could always be a little bit better, they’ve gone to the mat for women more than they had to.  Obama, as we see now, took a giant risk in standing with Planned Parenthood and NARAL against the Born Alive Infant Protection Act, a bill that was designed precisely to haunt any politician who stood against it because it was a stalking horse for abortion rights.  He took a bigger hit voting against than he would have voting for it, but he stood firm for women’s rights, and for that I’m grateful. In the Senate, Obama has been a leader in using congressional powers to expand birth control access and education. Biden didn’t have to be the champion of the VAWA.  I mean, it’s obvious looking back that you couldn’t have come up with a better piece of legislation that would move from being controversial to being a given, but who knows if he realized that at the time?  Contrary to what you might think, neither man has been the down the line follow the pack male Democrat, but both have stepped out and provided leadership.  I do believe and have seen with my own eyes that men can care about women’s issues deeply, and act on them.  And I think that Obama and Biden are those kind of men, after having spent months following them and doing some research on violence and reproductive rights.  And I’m not going to let a couple of pissants calling Sarah Palin a “cunt” distract me from who the real feminists are in this race, and who is indifferent and outright hostile to women’s rights.  With that, I leave you this reminder.

*Sometimes it’s true.  Some right wing women are particularly sharp people, smarter than the average bear.  But the ugly fact of the matter is a lot of those who think they’re extraordinary are just extremely useful, and may even have below average intelligence.  *cough* K-Lo *cough*

 

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Posted by Amanda Marcotte on 06:59 PM • (40) Comments

Often, right wing women feel that they don’t “need” feminism, because they are extraordinary and can compete in the world of men without equality.  Right wing men around them are happy to feed this belief,* a long as it suits their purposes, even if they secretly believe that even extraordinary women can’t keep up with an average man.

It always annoys me when I read stuff like, “women have to be twice as good as a man in order to get the same credit.  Fortunately, that’s not difficult.”

There are some women, especially in female-majority workplaces, who take comfort in constructing some kind of perceived superiority over the men who make more money than they do, boss them around, and basically have them pwned from the get-go.  “We’re superior, we are the earth mothers, they are just jealous and that’s why we’re being cheated, but we’re still super amazing creatures of light and love.”  Bleh.

It’s a similar opiate to that commonly found in religion.

Comment #1: oldfeminist  on  10/28  at  07:18 PM

I won’t get into another tirade about how these images of disembodied fetuses that apparently hang out in balloons and have more brain power than newborns and, apparently, full grown women are inherently misogynist images that erase the autonomy and labor of women.

I saw that image and interpreted it as a fetus in a hand grenade in some sort of weird anti-abortion militaristic statement… but I think you are right, it’s a balloon.

Comment #2: LauraB  on  10/28  at  07:42 PM

Abortions for some, miniature American flags for others!

Comment #3: Grammar RWA  on  10/28  at  07:46 PM

Wow. That yard sign freaks me out. I don’t even kno where to begin with how wrong that is. Creepy.

Comment #4: Mark  on  10/28  at  07:49 PM

a fetus in a hand grenade

No lie, I thought I saw a trigger.  Very odd shapes.

Comment #5: FlipYrWhig  on  10/28  at  07:56 PM

If feminism means anything, it certainly should mean equality for women, not ass-sucking the tokens who are brought up precisely to put the rest of us down.

This line rocked.  As did Grammar’s quip :D

On a random but semi-related note, there were about 3 op/ed’s in my student paper today (first edition since fall break) all doing a few of the more, uh, entertaining redefinitions on the abortion dispute.  My favorite was the “allowing abortion to be a choice deprives women of choice” pivot, but there was also the one that compared giving women the right to an abortion to giving women the right to cut off their own arms.  The third one was standard boilerplate pro-life arguments, although it did include a phrase about a woman’s body being a “vessel” for a baby.  Ick.  No one, of course, said anything about the abortion debate actually being about the conflict between a woman’s right to bodily autonomy and the fetus’ right to life.

Oh, and the other op/ed today?  Obama is a socialist.  Written by a poly-sci major.  Sigh.  Sometimes I hate Catholic universities.

Comment #6: themann1086  on  10/28  at  08:03 PM

The knot on the balloon/uterus is definitely the hammer of a gun.

Comment #7: Viceroy Matt  on  10/28  at  08:06 PM

Wow. That yard sign freaks me out. I don’t even kno where to begin with how wrong that is. Creepy.

Yeah…. Wow. It’s almost like an Onion parody.

And what IS up with that thing on the ballooterus?

Comment #8: annejumps  on  10/28  at  08:59 PM

“And what IS up with that thing on the ballooterus?”

Sperm tail?  Ewwww

Comment #9: Mark  on  10/28  at  09:04 PM

themann:

Not only do men have the right to cut off their own arms, they can get praised on talk show and write a hot-selling “as-told-to” book for doing so. Whee.

“She sees. She processes. She questions, and only then, she acts.” Well, shee-it. We all agree that’s two steps better than her running mate, but if not always shooting from the hip is really a qualification for being a heartbeat from the presidency, I’m going to have to invoke that almost-four-year-old again. Every single time, he will tell us not to back the car out of the garage unless he’s buckled in. (And yes, I realize that seatbelts and car seats are a socialist perversion without which the species would be much better off.)

Comment #10: paul  on  10/28  at  09:09 PM

The Elaine Lafferty article you linked to is possibly the most pathetic PUMA rationalization I’ve seen thus far.  I believe Elaine that Palin is smart but it was never her native intelligence or lack thereof that was a concern for me.  What frightens me about Palin is her utter lack of intellectual curiosity.  Just like GWB, she is intense ambition married to ignorance, with a hearty dollop of religious certitude on top.  She, like Bush, believes herself to be specially selected by God to carry out His mission on Earth.  She don’t need no stinking learning about SCOTUS decisions or fruit fly research.  Oy.

Comment #11: Donna  on  10/28  at  09:34 PM

all the rest of the Internet drivel—the book banning at the Library, the rape kits decision—is nonsense.

Nonsense?

Ex-FUCKING-scuse me?!

Whatever. Feminist my ass. She may have once been an editor at Ms., but she’s firmly anti-feminist now, and entirely not credible.

Comment #12: RacyT  on  10/28  at  09:35 PM

“And what IS up with that thing on the ballooterus?”

Sperm tail?  Ewwww

Mark

I kinda read it as a giant overgrown sperm that somehow learned to clone itself…
It’s creepier than creepy.
I wonder if they KNOW how creepy that image is.
Still, could be worse, a foetal hand could be emerging from a va-jay with a flag…
ugh.

Comment #13: Danica Lefse Queen  on  10/28  at  09:37 PM

“She sees. She processes. She questions, and only then, she acts.”

Where is she getting this, exactly?

Because every time I’ve seen Palin appear outside of scripted stump speeches, she comes off the opposite.  Someone who is so sure that every word out of her mouth is made of gold that she’s willing to blab on just about any subject, no matter how little expertise she has on the matter or whether she even understands the question.  And, no, she’s not even good at bullshitting her way out of answering a toughie—she just soldiers on, declaring war on Russia, deciding that when Charlie Gibson says “The Bush Doctrine” he means “Some Stuff Bush Did, Or Something”. 

She also often sounds like she’s reciting memorized talking points, or worse, failing miserably at remembering or understanding the script she’s been given and just blabbing on, trying to recall a word here or there, or if not, well, whatever also. 

I guess you can say that she tries, but, well, if all you can say about someone aspiring to the second highest executive branch office in the US is “she tries”, and this is taken as a level of support of Palin’s candidacy worth publishing, we’re all in much deeper shit than we can even comprehend.

Comment #14: The Opoponax  on  10/28  at  09:45 PM

I have no idea where they’re getting the idea that the rape kit thing was debunked.  Their asses, probably.

“We’re superior, we are the earth mothers, they are just jealous and that’s why we’re being cheated, but we’re still super amazing creatures of light and love.” Bleh.

You HAVE been reading the PUMA blogs.

Seriously, on Reclusive Leftist I have seen the following arguments made in all seriousness and presented as “real” feminism: 1) that voting on abortion rights “sends the message that women are just their uteri—and nothing else”; 2) that birth control and abortion would be unnecessary were it not for patriarchy’s hostility to “healthy reproduction”; 3) that enjoying being pregnant with a wanted child is “just part of being a well-balanced, good mother, so why is it different if that fetus is unwanted?” 4) that the lack of good maternity leave policies in the U.S. comes from the “backlash” to abortion rights and the “selfish feminists” who care about those rights; 5) that we shouldn’t discriminate against people based on “geography (in utero)”; 6) that women had great power thousands of years ago because of our ability to give life, and denying that (by, say, being adamantly pro-choice) is rejecting part of one’s own womanhood—and that’s just off the top of my head.

Comment #15: killjoy  on  10/28  at  10:02 PM

Amanda, I think there are two, maybe 3, posts in that entry, and that separating them would’ve served them all better.

Ok.  Now WTF with an ex-editor of MS. getting in the tank for Palin!!!!????

Comment #16: Eric, Rejector of Memez  on  10/28  at  10:19 PM

A great white shark knows exactly who it is, too. Like Sarah Palin, it has fantastic confidence and knows precisely what it wants.

I wouldn’t want to get in the water with either one.

This is just more villagers being villagers - lining up behind the most carnivorous man/woman/thing in the lagoon, singing nonsense praises and hoping they’ll be eaten last.

Comment #17: cyrano  on  10/28  at  10:23 PM

A popular yard sign around here:  Pray and Vote for the Unborn.  So what popped into my head the first time I saw one?  “Heckuva job, foetus!”

Comment #18: ignobiltiy  on  10/28  at  11:00 PM

I can sort of see why Lafferty might feel tempted to root for Palin, actually.

I wonder how much of it is the strain within feminism that one of our major goals should be to stick up for women, wherever they are wronged, no matter whether they’re good people or not.  I’m personally not sure how important that particular goal within feminism really is, or whether it’s any more feminist than “infidelity = BAD!” or “Oh Those Terrible Menz!”, to name a few other more knee-jerk feminism lite ideas.

But I can understand someone who sees herself as feminist taking the tack that because Palin has in some regards been wronged, it’s important to stick up for her.  Though obviously that shouldn’t trump her horrible policies or objectionably anti-feminist rhetoric.  Not to mention that one might want to remember which party she represents and what their official platform is.

I’ll also admit that I’ve felt a twinge of regret at some of the misogynistic treatment Palin has received, and especially the fact that a lot of people who agree with me seem to hate her more out of misogyny than because of her politics.

Comment #19: The Opoponax  on  10/28  at  11:04 PM

<blockquote.*Sometimes it’s true.  Some right wing women are particularly sharp people, smarter than the average bear.  But the ugly fact of the matter is a lot of those who think they’re extraordinary are just extremely useful, and may even have below average intelligence.  *cough* K-Lo *cough* </blockquote>
*cough* Ann *cough* Althouse

That’s lame that Lafferty, a former Ms. editor, is giving Palin props for “seeing, processing, questioning then acting.”  I can’t think of many creatures that don’t. Toddlers, for all their willfullness, occasionally pause and consider the consequences before acting. Even my dogs at times hesitate before doing something verboten if I’m can see them.

And that lawn sign? Creepy! I’m trying to figure out why a gas pump nozzle is connected to the dwelling space of the fetus. I’d also prefer not to think of fetuses carrying sharp, pointy things that their mothers will have to expel during the birth experience.

Comment #20: Slackajawea  on  10/28  at  11:38 PM

Opop but this is a both/and blog. I think we can say it is definitely misogynistic when people criticise Palin using any or all of the standard women-bashing tropes and I think we can all agree that that is not cool and not feminist. But at the same time we can criticise Palin for her anti-women policies and pronouncements. We can also critique the patriarchy and the way it uses women like Palin (and, indeed, the way Palin exploits the patriarchy for her own ends).

I’m all for supporting the sisterhood but that doesn’t mean I can’t also point it out when I see someone who happens to be female behaving in ways which are damaging to all women.

Comment #21: JC  on  10/28  at  11:43 PM

I wonder how much of it is the strain within feminism that one of our major goals should be to stick up for women, wherever they are wronged, no matter whether they’re good people or not.

I think there’s a difference between calling out sexist treatment of a woman who is not a good person and “sticking up for women” because they are women. I first, in my opinion, is important to feminism. I’ve felt more than a twinge at some of the sexist crap thrown at her. Combined with some of the stuff thrown at Clinton in the primary, it was a very sobering education on how we (as a society, not as feminists or women) view women in public life. But the latter is just silliness. And I agree that some people certainly seem to be confusing the two.

I can condemn a t-shirt that shows McCain doing Palin doggy-style over the slogan “Drill, baby, drill!” as misogynistic and demeaning to all women without turning that into a vote for the McCain-Palin ticket. I’m not obligated to vote for her to stick it to the sexists anymore than I’m obligated to buy Ann Coulter’s book to show solidarity with transsexuals who are insulted every time someone makes a tranny joke about Coulter.

Comment #22: chingona  on  10/28  at  11:50 PM

3) that enjoying being pregnant with a wanted child is “just part of being a well-balanced, good mother, so why is it different if that fetus is unwanted?”

What the fuckety fucking fuck??!?  Spare me from these douchewipes who believe that all baby recepticles women are washed over with majickal mommy jujus by pregnancy.  Oh, and once they place the squalling mirakul frum Jeezus in your arms that glorious, and universal, maternal instinct kicks in and you forget that you didn’t want or plan for it.  But I can’t help but wonder, where does the forced birther emphasis on adoption fit in with this?  Doesn’t it necessitate at least some percentage of the baby recepticles women being callous unnatural non-maternal harlots, enough to surrender their offspring to “Loving Christian couples eager to provide a good home”?

Comment #23: Donna  on  10/28  at  11:51 PM

I has problems with the HTMLs today.  I fail.  :(

Comment #24: Donna  on  10/28  at  11:53 PM

Some right wing women are particularly sharp people, smarter than the average bear.  But the ugly fact of the matter is a lot of those who think they’re extraordinary are just extremely useful, and may even have below average intelligence.

Ugh.  Sometimes I think they promote the dumb ones on purpose just to rub it in the faces of all those smartypants feminists.

Comment #25: Cat Ion  on  10/28  at  11:53 PM

What chingona said.  When gender loaded insults are used to denigrate ANY woman, regardless of her ideology, it’s a reminder from Dude Nation to all of us to stay in our places. 

I can hate Sarah Palin’s capitulation to the retrograde sexism of her fundamentalist religion and the GOP without being sexist.

That said, I often wonder how much more obvious George W. Bush’s incompetence would have been had he been female.  I think we all know the answer to that.

Comment #26: Donna  on  10/28  at  11:58 PM

I can condemn a t-shirt that shows McCain doing Palin doggy-style over the slogan “Drill, baby, drill!” as misogynistic and demeaning to all women without turning that into a vote for the McCain-Palin ticket.

I think we’re all in agreement on that.  But there are, it seems, a few feminists out there who can’t seem to grasp that.

Comment #27: Amanda Marcotte  on  10/29  at  01:28 AM

Lafferty: “Palin is more than a “quick study”; I’d heard rumors around the campaign of her photographic memory and, frankly, I watched it in action. She sees. She processes. She questions, and only then, she acts.”

You know who else was supposed to have a photographic memory?  Ronald Reagan, with whom Palin shares an adeptness at grandiose self-mythologizing and a penchant for the creeping lie. 

There’s a lot of different ways of conceptualizing and describing “intelligence,” and certainly Palin is probably well above average in being able to memorize the key points of right wing dogma on foreign and domestic policy and the names of foreign leaders, but isn’t it worrisome that she hadn’t previously thought through any of these things that she’s now learning about?  Because she really seems like someone who, until now, hadn’t thought very hard about policy, read very deeply, or asked very many questions.  Take her steadfast opposition to Roe alongside her agreement (to Katie Couric) that the Constitution guarantees a “right to privacy.”  Someone who actually knows about Roe—the foundation for and history of the decision—and who has a basic awareness of how the Supreme Court works and what it does—would have found it impossible (without lengthy possibly self-defeating explanation) to reject the decision while accepting the principle at its core.

Not to mention her clear record of unethical leadership in Alaska (Troopergate, the pipeline, the rape kits…)  No matter how smart you are, or how astonishingly amazing your ability to “see, process, and act is,” that kind of stuff is just not cool.

Comment #28: olivetti  on  10/29  at  01:47 AM

Intelligence needs a goal.  Before this, Palin’s intelligence was aimed at wringing out the goodies available in Wasilla, and then Juneau.  IOW, penny-ante stuff.

If she should attain higher office, or even just higher prominence, the goodies available will be bigger.  She’ll be like a cunning but small-time thief who’s been knocking over liquor stores who somehow stumbles into Fort Knox.

Then we’ll see the true range of that intelligence.

Comment #29: Eric, Rejector of Memez  on  10/29  at  02:10 AM

What really killed me was her answer to Couric on Ledbetter Act.  It was utterly nonsensical and insulting. 

But I can’t help but wonder, where does the forced birther emphasis on adoption fit in with this?  Doesn’t it necessitate at least some percentage of the baby recepticles women being callous unnatural non-maternal harlots, enough to surrender their offspring to “Loving Christian couples eager to provide a good home”?

Well, the context was a pro-choice woman trying to argue that anti-choice positions can be feminist (big theme on PUMA blogs—young women are out, anti-choice women are in), but the use of terms like “nature”, “well-balanced” and “good mother” really made it look as if she was taking her first baby steps towards forced-birtherdom.  I’m not sure it held together as a coherent worldview. 

Amanda’s right on target with the bit about the erasure of women’s labour.

Comment #30: killjoy  on  10/29  at  02:11 AM

To me the “balloon” looked like an attempt to show fetus floating in amniotic sac, as in the famous set of Life magazine photos in the 1960s (Nilssen? some Swedish photographer). The fetus fetish folks just love those pictures, despite the fact that the fetuses were photoed just before abortion.

PUMA - a brain-sucking illness.

Comment #31: NancyP  on  10/29  at  05:23 AM

Opop but this is a both/and blog.

Oh, I know that.  I’m just saying I can see how Lafferty might be confused and decide that it’s important to “stand up” for Palin, just out of sisterhood or whatever.  Which is a noble idea, I guess.  I mean, even my gravest enemies are still human beings and still deserve fair treatment. 

Personally, I hate Sarah Palin with the white-hot fire of a thousand suns, and have basically zero sympathy for he, even when it comes to things like misogynistic attacks, because ultimately I feel that she brought it on herself—she’s running for FemBot In Chief, you know?

But I can see how someone who calls herself feminist might be tricked into having sympathy for Palin.

Comment #32: The Opoponax  on  10/29  at  09:19 AM

Take her steadfast opposition to Roe alongside her agreement (to Katie Couric) that the Constitution guarantees a “right to privacy.” Someone who actually knows about Roe—the foundation for and history of the decision—and who has a basic awareness of how the Supreme Court works and what it does—would have found it impossible (without lengthy possibly self-defeating explanation) to reject the decision while accepting the principle at its core.

Not to mention that both she and McCain have trotted out that nifty little “I think Roe was poorly decided” cliche, which is usually code for the person saying that the constitution does not guarantee a right to privacy.

D’oh!

Comment #33: The Opoponax  on  10/29  at  09:24 AM

A few quick items:

(1) I absolutely LOVE this blog, and in particular, I’ve become a huge fan of Ms. Marcotte’s work.  I’m only sad that I hadn’t discovered it sooner; it would have saved me a lot of inarticulate inward bursts during critical arguments with opponents of choice in public settings.

(2) I am a student at Widener Law in Wilmington, where Senator Biden has been teaching for quite some time.  I work with a pro bono legal clinic on campus that especially focuses on services to victims of DV, and we have a small, but utterly committed group of attorneys who devote themselves to what is the unpopular, unglamorous and often emotionally difficult struggle to end violence against women.  Our courts are surprisingly not terrible in Delaware, but by any advocate’s standards of decency, they can be downright recalcitrant and cold.  I won’t even discuss commonplace police treatment of targeted women here.  I will say that the belief that marital rape is not “real” rape is still often unapologetically held.

Senator Biden has the respect, support and admiration of every attorney and educator I know who’s worked with him or worked in tune with the his same sincere dedication on this issue; he truly has kept it real and not let women be forgotten.  And because I believe that he is in fact so genuinely goodhearted, I know he’d hate to take all of the credit.  We have in the Delaware legal community a small cadre of what are mostly women attorneys/educators who have made this struggle their career.  They are heroes, plain and simple.  The VAWA and Senator Biden deserve all of the accolades they can get, but while I am grateful for what we’ve got in both the Act and the man behind it, I privately believe that his commitment should be ordinary and widespread amongst men, especially men with power.  He rolled up his sleeves with us; I thank him.  And now I want more men to fling their full bodies into this battle and make it end.  I want them to scream and file motions and not “stay out of it” and risk not getting tenure or risk being disliked or perceived as “angry” on behalf of these women and their children.  This is the work of everyday advocates.

Amanda, thanks again for using your extraordinary talents and energy to push all sex-inequality ideology past its various breaking points.  Today’s debators are tomorrow’s litigators and we’re watching you.

Comment #34: Laura  on  10/29  at  11:13 AM

It looked like a gas pump nozzle massively overfilling an amniotic sac.

Mom’s uterus is nowhere in sight, but hey, she doesn’t get to count!

Comment #35: Ms Kate  on  10/29  at  11:31 AM

Palin is more than a “quick study”; I’d heard rumors around the campaign of her photographic memory and, frankly, I watched it in action. She sees. She processes. She questions, and only then, she acts. What is often called her “confidence” is actually a rarity in national politics: I saw a woman who knows exactly who she is.

Classic example of somebody who has learned to massively compensate for a nonverbal learning disorder and all the attendant problems with reading comprehension and information processing that it brings, right down to the “photographic memory”.  Show some leg, parrot something, people will think you are smart and actually understand what you are talking about.

Much easier to look sexxaayy and react on impulse to what little you know and can parrot verbatim and call it “God’s Guidance” than to do the hard work of addressing a learning disability.

Comment #36: Ms Kate  on  10/29  at  11:36 AM

Classic example of somebody who has learned to massively compensate for a nonverbal learning disorder and all the attendant problems with reading comprehension and information processing that it brings, right down to the “photographic memory”.

What kind of nonverbal learning disorder?  I have a mild NVLD myself, but clearly not the one you have in mind.

Comment #37: killjoy  on  10/29  at  03:59 PM

The VAWA and Senator Biden deserve all of the accolades they can get, but while I am grateful for what we’ve got in both the Act and the man behind it, I privately believe that his commitment should be ordinary and widespread amongst men, especially men with power.  He rolled up his sleeves with us; I thank him.  And now I want more men to fling their full bodies into this battle and make it end.  I want them to scream and file motions and not “stay out of it” and risk not getting tenure or risk being disliked or perceived as “angry” on behalf of these women and their children.

Amen to that.  Maybe if that kind of thing happened then I would be able to actually do something about having had one of the kids at my daycare tell me today that his daddy put his hands on his mommy’s throat last night and that it made him very sad.  He was just sitting there coloring, and then he told me that, and then he went back to coloring.  Like it was so commonplace.

I’m sorry; I’m just absolutely devastated that, as long as he doesn’t lay a hand on this child, we can do absolutely nothing to report the potential domestic violence.  There’s no legal recourse, so he could come back and tell me every day about new and creative ways that his daddy abused his mommy, and there’s nothing I can do other than pray that this little boy doesn’t grow up to be an abuser, or that he doesn’t fall victim to the same physical abuse (since he’s already being psychologically victimized by having to watch this).  I could kill someone.  He’s just a baby, and his mom deserves better, and I have to sit on my hands.

We do not have enough advocates for these people.  I’m sorry; this hits really close to home today.

Comment #38: Atheist Feminazi  on  10/29  at  05:35 PM

INTP, get a social worker involved, I think the psychological abuse of witnessing what you described would be enough to get the kid pulled out, and if you live in a state where you’d be considered a mandated reporter(as here in CA), you might just be covering your butt at the same time. smile

Okay, so, try to overlook the creepy balloon-dwelling patriot fetus in the center. That’s a pretty classy font on that sign. How did that happen? Normally downmarket political material uses downmarket fonts (cf. the 2004 bush/cheney material, with its big blocky wal*mart seeming fonts).

Comment #40: You Can't Tip a Buick  on  10/29  at  06:27 PM
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