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Tuesday, June 24, 2008

Nice Guys® still not vindicated

As you read this, I’m in transit to Hollywood to film an interview for a documentary about the chastity movement.  To no one’s big surprise, I’m against it, but that’s neither here nor there.  The point is blogging may be spotty until Thursday morning, when I’ve safely returned from Gomorrah-on-the-Pacific.  (Sodom is San Francisco.)  In the meantime, I figured you all would be as disappointed as I am to see more choad-based “science” with this research that seems geared towards proving every Nice Guy® who claimed that women really like jerks, not realizing that if that was really so, he’d be rolling in the pussy just for saying that.  Jill’s take is well worth reading, but I have more to add, naturally. 

The article is a stellar example of choad-based science.  First, there’s the weird implication that having more sexual partners=having more offspring, which is actually anti-true nowadays (it’s easier to talk someone into having kids if you stick around), and I’m skeptical if it ever was a better strategy than actually cultivating relationships.  Second of all, they use movie characters as “evidence” for the theory, as if stories about James Bond are some great insight into human nature instead of a male fantasy that’s a fantasy precisely because of how unlikely it is. 

The theory is that jerks have more sex than nice guys.  Well, er, not more sex actually, though we can assume that’s going to be the erroneous assumption drawn by Nice Guys® around the world who use this research to justify their belief that women are too stupid to breathe, much less be trusted to select our own sexual partners.  But actually, the research shows that college-aged men that have a triad of ugly personality traits—-narcissism, callousness, and dishonesty, basically—-are more likely to claim a higher number of sexual partners on a survey.  As anyone who has both done the slutty single thing and the monogamous thing would tell you, slutty singles actually get laid less.  You know, because it’s so much more work.  But yes, you get more notches on the bedpost.  One of the allures of monogamy is the appeal of getting laid all the time, after all.  Of course, as commenters at Feministe noted, the immediate conclusion is that men who lie frequently outside of surveys are probably more likely to lie on a survey, which might be enough to explain this situation.

 

 

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